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The Needs of a Swinger Lifestyle

Some partners have discussed having a swinger’s lifestyle, which means they are fully open and okay with sleeping with other couples. There are many reasons as to why this can be, from increasing arousal between each other to spicing things up. The following are a few things that are needed to have a swigners lifestyle.

Communication

The first step is to have amazing communication, you don’t want any surprises later when either partner attempts to interpreted something. Sit down, discuss it and be clear about what each other is okay with, limitations, and any restrictions before moving forward. This will help avoid negative situations later. This goes for the other couple(s) too.

Open-Minded

For swinging to work, everyone must have an open mind, including both parties of the other couple. Remember, if one person in the group is unsure it can ruin the fun and possibly end relationships (assuming you know them personally). If you’re meeting up with swinger couples, this pertains to just you and your partner.

Separating Love and Sex

Those who have had a successful swinger lifestyle have separated love from sex. Rather than sexual activities being considered ‘making love’, it’s simply another enjoyable experience. Many are actually dedicated to their family life too.

Understanding

Finally, possibly the most needed thing to have is understanding. This will come into play the very first time the topic is brought up by you and/or your partner.  Those who understand the desire to branch out and sleep with other people, while maintaining the love and family structure will be more successful in having a long-term swinger lifestyle. Whereas, those who do not understand often view the topic as taboo, disrespectful and even that their partner is not satisfied with them.

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