Sexperiments Masked Desires Kit By Sportsheets Review

There are things we've slowly been integrating into our sex lives-  costumes, paddles and glorious cockrings.  Before the sir & I hooked up, I was pretty run of the mill with my sex life, and apparently so was he.  Since we got into the Lifestyle, we've been witnessing first hand that people are having a lot of fun simply being playful with their sexuality. We've always loved sex, the guy and...

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Dealing With Busy Vanilla Lives, Emotional Exhaustion & Swinging

  Holy hell, I am so fucking tired sometimes. Since setting up our Kasidie profile about 7-ish months ago and attending events at a local club and house parties, our social lives and career responsibilities seemingly have been tagging along together in an upward trajectory. The dude and I are evolving workaholics, and scheduling playtime-which is extra challenging for swingers, has been sort of a struggle lately. When you get into swinging, you...

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Swinger Essential: The Liberator Fascinator Throw Review

There are many reasons to love the Liberator Fascinator Throw- first off, it's classier and comfier than a sex towel. Secondly, if you're a swinger and you're getting a romp on at someone else's house, it's classy to bring your own linens- it's sort of a dick move to make a wet mess on someone else's mattress. For play at home, if you've been the lucky person who gets to sleep...

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Sexism In Swinging: I Call Bullshit

In 2005, if you were to walk into a typical sex shop, after you stepped beyond the threshold of a blacked out door of an adult store on the wrong side of town, you'd be inundated with sex toys that were created for women, but marketed to them in a very sexist way.  It was like, asking what women wanted was an afterthought. You couldn't even get a bullet vibe without...

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The Njoy Fun Wand- Not The Pure Wand, But Totally Fun.

I have been somewhat obsessed with trying items from the Njoy line after hearing the hosts of the Life on the Swingset Podcast gush about them.  Njoy produces a line of stainless steel toys that are sleek and designed for hitting the G-spot and P-spot, and best of all, they retain temperatures and are completely able to be sterilized. I never used a stainless steel toy before- I've been a...

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I’m Not A God Damned Show Pony: Being On Display As A Female Swinger

We've been at this swinging game for a few months, and by no means, am I an expert on the scene or the varied experiences of women in the lifestyle.  We are still, very much fumbling through the myriad of emotions, perceptions and even our own identities as we peel through the various layers of self we come across when going deeper into the lifestyle. I did though, think it was important...

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Why We Chose Swinging

As of this writing, my partner and I are relatively new to swinging.  We're totally fumbly little children learning how to navigate the lifestyle waters, but it's been an exciting time of exploration, a few mistakes and a lot of learning about ourselves and what we want. Many couples out there come to explore the lifestyle after being married for awhile and wanting to explore new avenues of their partnership....

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LELO Elise 2 Review

I have been a fan of LELO toys since I was smart enough to know that jelly toys are bad, and that there were other options out there beyond the nasty looking toys with porn stars plastered on the cover that weren't really engineered for performance. I've had the LELO Nea & Liv (the OGs) for well over 5 years and they're still running strong, but I wanted to branch...

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Why Having “Soulmates” is Total Bullshit, But That’s Okay

Coming to the lifestyle was not a sudden epiphany- for me and my partner, it was the culmination of years of observational understandings, anecdotal findings and personal feelings on love, life and what it means when the two coincide. For me, the lifestyle has never been about the physicality or the erotic which seems to be the precipitating factor for many couples who need to spice things up.  We didn’t discover...

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Are You A Vanilla?

  Are you a vanilla?  You may not be familiar with the term, but if you're exploring the world of sex toys, erotica, swinging & poly, you'll hear the term "vanilla" to describe the "normals."  The monogamous. The mainstream.  The typical. When I was younger, I was probably the most non-vanilla of my family & friends.  I protested bans on gay marriage and went to sex shops when I turned 18....

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