Why We Chose Swinging

As of this writing, my partner and I are relatively new to swinging.  We're totally fumbly little children learning how to navigate the lifestyle waters, but it's been an exciting time of exploration, a few mistakes and a lot of learning about ourselves and what we want. Many couples out there come to explore the lifestyle after being married for awhile and wanting to explore new avenues of their partnership....

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Why Having “Soulmates” is Total Bullshit, But That’s Okay

Coming to the lifestyle was not a sudden epiphany- for me and my partner, it was the culmination of years of observational understandings, anecdotal findings and personal feelings on love, life and what it means when the two coincide. For me, the lifestyle has never been about the physicality or the erotic which seems to be the precipitating factor for many couples who need to spice things up.  We didn’t discover...

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Are You A Vanilla?

  Are you a vanilla?  You may not be familiar with the term, but if you're exploring the world of sex toys, erotica, swinging & poly, you'll hear the term "vanilla" to describe the "normals."  The monogamous. The mainstream.  The typical. When I was younger, I was probably the most non-vanilla of my family & friends.  I protested bans on gay marriage and went to sex shops when I turned 18....

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