Where To Go From Here? Still Looking After A Year Of Swinging

It's been a year.  While we dabbled for awhile previously, it's been a full year of embracing the lifestyle and giving it a go. The fella and I have loved swinging, despite the challenges of swinging down south.  It's been an interesting year, and if anything- I've learned to be stronger in articulating my boundaries with strangers, and questioning the ones I have when I truly feel safe around...

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Swinging Down South- Reflections of a Year Of Open Living in a Red State

Where we live, it doesn't snow, ever.  It's a red state with the most terrible sex stores along the highway, and more strip clubs than theaters, but it's home. When we decided to dip our toes in the non-monogamy waters, we had no idea how it would work in a conservative state. Needless to say, at first it was awkward. I attended Girls Uncorked (swinger mixers) at houses that had...

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Reflections on a Week At Desire

  We booked our trip to Desire for the Swingset Takeover back in April.  At that point, we were really new to the lifestyle and hoped we'd be ready for the trip by the time it arrived.   We both had our reservations about the trip- the male half of this twosome was a bit worried about being naked all the time and what that would feel like, and I...

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Stumbling Forward…Figuring Out What You Want & Need In the Lifestyle

It's been nearly a month since my last post.  Part of me thinks this is insane, and part of me realizes it's been a busy month with many deep breaths along the way to wonder when the sexy part of my brain is going to switch back on. I've been working. A lot. Like, a fucklot. Over the last 30 days, I got a promotion.  I started some new projects, sold...

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Dealing With Body Image Issues As A Swinger

  If you're entering the world of swinging, there can be a few stumbling blocks in the way before you truly find your stride.  In the beginning, when we (as a heterosexual, white couple) entered into this world, we read plenty of content geared for newbies that was focused on jealousy, emotional connections and keeping a existing relationship intact when new partners and scenarios are introduced. For us, while there was...

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How To Meet People In The Swinging Lifestyle

So, how to meet people in the swinging lifestyle?  It's one of those questions we all ask when we want to give this swinging thing a go but we're not sure where to start?  If you're new to the lifestyle, it can be really intimidating to try and find other likeminded people- especially if you're not really sure if it's a good fit for you as a couple. When the...

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Dealing With Busy Vanilla Lives, Emotional Exhaustion & Swinging

  Holy hell, I am so fucking tired sometimes. Since setting up our Kasidie profile about 7-ish months ago and attending events at a local club and house parties, our social lives and career responsibilities seemingly have been tagging along together in an upward trajectory. The dude and I are evolving workaholics, and scheduling playtime-which is extra challenging for swingers, has been sort of a struggle lately. When you get into swinging, you...

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Sexism In Swinging: I Call Bullshit

In 2005, if you were to walk into a typical sex shop, after you stepped beyond the threshold of a blacked out door of an adult store on the wrong side of town, you'd be inundated with sex toys that were created for women, but marketed to them in a very sexist way.  It was like, asking what women wanted was an afterthought. You couldn't even get a bullet vibe without...

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I’m Not A God Damned Show Pony: Being On Display As A Female Swinger

We've been at this swinging game for a few months, and by no means, am I an expert on the scene or the varied experiences of women in the lifestyle.  We are still, very much fumbling through the myriad of emotions, perceptions and even our own identities as we peel through the various layers of self we come across when going deeper into the lifestyle. I did though, think it was important...

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