Reflections on a Week At Desire

  We booked our trip to Desire for the Swingset Takeover back in April.  At that point, we were really new to the lifestyle and hoped we'd be ready for the trip by the time it arrived.   We both had our reservations about the trip- the male half of this twosome was a bit worried about being naked all the time and what that would feel like, and I...

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Something Old, Something New: A Personal Sexual Evolution

The LELO Nea was my first big girl vibrator.  After having a few rounds of terrible jelly vibrators, I wanted to go battery-less and get something I could recharge, that was quiet and discreet and would last beyond the cheap toys I'd had previously. I don't even remember where I bought it- probably online, but I've had this one toy for over 6 years now (I think!) and it's been...

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Stumbling Forward…Figuring Out What You Want & Need In the Lifestyle

It's been nearly a month since my last post.  Part of me thinks this is insane, and part of me realizes it's been a busy month with many deep breaths along the way to wonder when the sexy part of my brain is going to switch back on. I've been working. A lot. Like, a fucklot. Over the last 30 days, I got a promotion.  I started some new projects, sold...

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Dealing With Body Image Issues As A Swinger

  If you're entering the world of swinging, there can be a few stumbling blocks in the way before you truly find your stride.  In the beginning, when we (as a heterosexual, white couple) entered into this world, we read plenty of content geared for newbies that was focused on jealousy, emotional connections and keeping a existing relationship intact when new partners and scenarios are introduced. For us, while there was...

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Tauntus Bend Over Beginner Strap On Kit Review

I was really excited to get my hands on our first tools for a fun pegging session.   While I had been in to many a sex shop in my pre-lifestyle life and had seen an array of strap on devices, it never occurred to me that I may need one, so I never gave it much thought. As the other Vanilla-half and I listened to more Life on the...

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Adventures In Female Ejaculation: Dude. I Finally Squirted.

Female ejaculation.  It's one of those things that in the sexy savvy circles seems to things to aspire to- well at least, I was aspiring to.  I've read a ton of bloggers are able to do it and of course, wanted to join the cool club and learn how to squirt myself. Except, that for the longest time, I friggin' couldn't. I tried everything.  I've had vibrators, I've even picked up...

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How To Meet People In The Swinging Lifestyle

So, how to meet people in the swinging lifestyle?  It's one of those questions we all ask when we want to give this swinging thing a go but we're not sure where to start?  If you're new to the lifestyle, it can be really intimidating to try and find other likeminded people- especially if you're not really sure if it's a good fit for you as a couple. When the...

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Sexperiments Masked Desires Kit By Sportsheets Review

There are things we've slowly been integrating into our sex lives-  costumes, paddles and glorious cockrings.  Before the sir & I hooked up, I was pretty run of the mill with my sex life, and apparently so was he.  Since we got into the Lifestyle, we've been witnessing first hand that people are having a lot of fun simply being playful with their sexuality. We've always loved sex, the guy and...

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